The "how do I feel" question is interesting. Short answer: okay today, not great. Thanks for asking.
I hope my sleep tonight is less interrupted by the machine.
Longer answer:
I'm one of those women who didn't present the "usual" (defined by men's symptoms) way. Neither my husband, parents, or kids (with whom I've shared hotel rooms, tents, and cruise ship cabins in recent memory) report that I snore at all, except moderately when I have a cold. I've not had the daytime sleepiness, either.
After several years of suffering repeating flares of autoimmune disease symptoms (joint pain, flu like exhaustion and malaise, low fevers) as well as some stuff that seems more like fibromyalgia (muscle aches), earlier this year I encountered brain fog. I forgot how to sign my name one day. I keep forgetting my computer passwords. I started to feel downright stupid, and highly intelligent is one of the primary ways I've always defined myself. That hits me right in my self-worth. Vitamin B-12 seemed to help the worst of it, but I'm still forgetful.
I find it easier to accept living with physical infirmity than losing my mental faculties. I've always taken decent care of my body--non smoker, reasonable diet aiming for organic, whole foods, exercised regularly before I got sick--but I don't find that stuff interesting. It's just necessary.
I'm extraordinarily fortunate to have the privilege of adapting to my new reality by cutting back activity after ~4pm, hiring help for jobs I can't manage like heavy cleaning and grocery deliveries, etc. My family is both helpful and understanding, and my in laws live in an attached apartment downstairs in our home, so I get tons of help with the kids.
After a few years trying to get to the bottom of my joint pain and overall fatigue, my primary care doctor suggested the sleep study. Insurance pushed back and he had to justify it because I don't match most of the trigger symptoms. I'm in my early 40's, but height-weight proportionate, female, small neck size, not falling asleep during the day...
So I feel okay today, but not great. My joints ache, but it is raining, chilly autumn, and my symptoms come in flares that tend to persist for days or weeks. I have a slight headache, but my sleep was disturbed, so that's normal for me. My fatigue is better when I have a good sleep--go figure!--so I'm moderately tired today.
I've been prone to insomnia my entire adult life. I'm well aware of good sleep hygiene and attempt to practice it. Most of this is mental, "can't wind down my thoughts" insomnia of the "difficulty falling asleep" variety. In recent years, I've had more of the other, later, "can't get back to sleep" variety. Alcohol, in particular, triggers the latter if I have more than one drink.
What I now wonder about, thinking it was a symptom of apnea, is a pair of two episodes of waking at night into "panic attacks." Starting a few years ago, I've had a number of "waking up feeling panicky" experiences, but, recognizing that it was not a "real" threat, I got through them with deep breathing, relaxing eventually back to sleep. Both times they progressed to actual, diagnosed panic attacks, I tried to ignore them and got up (to go to the bathroom.) Taking physical action brought me literally to the ground, thinking I was dying of a heart attack. There was something PHYSICAL behind it, and activity ramped it up.
Those were a while ago, but I've also had nights this past summer where I wake from dreams and feel a sense of dread and horror, but the content of the dreams didn't match those feelings. It seems logical that could be a result of not breathing--a dreadful situation, in fact!
I've read that a "sense of being overwhelmed" is also a woman's apnea symptom. That fits my situation. Then again, I'm a mom to school aged children. The fact that being ill has made me worse at that job--which I take very seriously--is an obvious reason to feel overwhelmed. But I have described to my doctors that I feel like I have an anxiety that is being created by physical symptoms. I don't think this anxiety is psychological in origin. All of it is new, since I got sick with the original autoimmune condition. I think that's part of what prompted my GP to order the sleep test. I'm hopeful that treating the apnea will rid me of the anxiety.
You may have noticed by now that I'm wordy. Sorry for that! I do try to put the vital stuff at the top and then launch into my long-winded explanation for those, like me, who enjoy long form content...